Harold Robert Meyer | The ADD Resource Center Reviewed 12/02/2025 Published 12/06/2025
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Executive Summary
Loving yourself is not a luxury—it is a necessity for your well-being, especially if you live with ADHD or support someone who does. This article explores why self-care matters, how to build a practice of self-compassion, and practical strategies you can use daily. Drawing on wisdom from Hillel—“If I am not for myself, who will be for me?”—you’ll learn how prioritizing yourself strengthens resilience, relationships, and productivity.
Why This Matters
For individuals with ADHD, caregivers, and professionals, self-care often falls to the bottom of the list. Yet neglecting your own needs can lead to burnout, stress, and diminished effectiveness. By embracing self-love, you create a foundation for balance and growth. As Harold Meyer of the ADD Resource Center emphasizes, “When you take care of yourself, you expand your capacity to care for others.” Understanding this principle empowers you to thrive personally and professionally.
Key Findings
- Self-love is essential for resilience and mental health.
- ADHD can intensify self-criticism, making intentional self-care practices vital.
- Practical strategies—such as setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, and scheduling rest—help sustain energy.
- Loving yourself enhances your ability to support others effectively.
- Resources like the ADD Resource Center provide tools and guidance for building sustainable self-care routines.
Developing a Practice of Self-Care
Recognizing Your Worth
Hillel’s timeless quote, “If I am not for myself, who will be for me?” reminds you that self-advocacy is not selfish—it is survival. When you acknowledge your worth, you begin to dismantle the negative self-talk that often accompanies ADHD.
Practical Strategies
- Set boundaries: Learn to say no without guilt. Protecting your time and energy is a form of self-respect.
- Mindfulness practices: Short breathing exercises or meditation can help you regulate emotions and reduce stress.
- Rest and recovery: Schedule downtime as intentionally as you schedule work. Rest is not wasted time—it is fuel.
- Positive affirmations: Replace self-criticism with affirmations that reinforce your strengths.
- Seek support: Engage with communities like ADDRC.org for resources and encouragement.
Overcoming Barriers
You may feel guilty for prioritizing yourself. Remember that modeling self-care teaches others its importance. By practicing self-love, you demonstrate resilience and authenticity.
Conclusion
Loving yourself is not indulgence—it is empowerment. By embracing self-care, you honor your humanity and strengthen your ability to meet life’s challenges. Visit ADDRC.org for additional resources and tools to support your journey.
Resources
- ADD Resource Center: https://www.addrc.org
- CHADD: https://chadd.org
- National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov
- Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Programs
Bibliography
Meyer, H. (2023). ADHD Strategies for Success. ADD Resource Center.
Author Bio
Harold Meyer established The A.D.D. Resource Center in 1993 to offer ADHD education, advocacy, and support. He co-founded CHADD of New York, served as CHADD’s national treasurer, and was president of the Institute for the Advancement of ADHD Coaching. A writer and international speaker on ADHD, he has also led school boards and task forces, conducted educator workshops, worked in advertising and technology consulting, and contributed to early online ADHD forums.
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