An Honest and Positive Approach to Disclosing ADHD

  Harold Robert Meyer and The ADD Resource Center 11/10/2024

By Harold Robert Meyer and The ADD Resource Center

Important Note: Consider carefully the timing and context of disclosing your ADHD.

Understanding Your Strengths

Before discussing ADHD disclosure, it’s essential to recognize that ADHD brings both challenges and unique strengths. People with ADHD often excel at:

• Creative thinking and generating innovative solutions
• Hyperfocus on engaging tasks
• High energy and enthusiasm
• Quick decision-making
• Adaptability and flexibility
• Strong empathy and emotional awareness
• Ability to think outside the box

When to Consider Disclosure

Appropriate Times

• When seeking workplace accommodations
• If ADHD impacts team dynamics or project management
• During conversations about working styles with supervisors
• When building trust in close relationships
• If symptoms are noticeable and explanations would be helpful
• From strength. not sd sn excuse

Less Suitable Times

• Job interviews
• With casual acquaintances
• When it’s not relevant to the situation
• As an excuse
• If you don’t feel emotionally ready

How to Disclose

Framework for Disclosure

1. Start Positive
   • Begin with your strengths and contributions
   • Highlight successful strategies you’ve developed
   • Share your commitment to growth and improvement
2. Be Matter-of-Fact
   • Present ADHD as a difference in brain wiring, not a deficiency
   • Use clear, non-judgmental language
   • Focus on specific behaviors and solutions
3. Offer Solutions
   • Share strategies that work for you
   • Suggest specific accommodations if needed
   • Emphasize your proactive approach

Sample Scripts

Workplace Disclosure

“I wanted to share something that helps explain my working style. I have ADHD, which means my brain processes information differently. This actually helps me think creatively and solve problems in unique ways. I’ve developed effective strategies like using detailed checklists and time-blocking to stay organized. I wanted to discuss this so we can work together most effectively.”

Personal Relationship Disclosure

“There’s something I’d like to share because I value our relationship. I have ADHD, which affects how I process information and manage time. While it can make some things challenging, it’s also part of what makes me energetic and creative. I’ve learned to work with it effectively, but I wanted you to understand this aspect of who I am.”

After Disclosure

Follow-Up Steps

1. Be open to questions and discussion
2. Share resources if others want to learn more
3. Maintain boundaries about personal information
4. Continue focusing on solutions and growth
5. Document any agreed-upon accommodations

Building Support

• Identify allies who understand and support you
• Join ADHD support groups or communities
• Maintain open communication with key people
• Celebrate successes and progress
• Address challenges promptly and professionally

Key Reminders

• ADHD is a difference, not a deficit
• Disclosure is a personal choice
• Focus on solutions and possibilities
• Your worth isn’t defined by your ADHD
• Building understanding benefits everyone

Resources for Support

Time management and organizational tools

ADHD coaches and mental health professionals

Employee assistance programs

ADHD support groups and organizations

Workplace disability resources

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