Harold Robert Meyer | The ADD Resource Center 07/04/2025
Summer break can be especially challenging when you’re parenting a child with ADHD. Disrupted routines, constant stimulation needs, and 24/7 supervision can lead to overwhelming feelings of resentment and burnout. This article provides evidence-based strategies to help you set healthy boundaries, practice self-compassion, and maintain your well-being while supporting your ADHD child. You’ll learn practical techniques for managing difficult emotions, creating sustainable summer routines, and strengthening your parent-child relationship during this demanding time. Remember: feeling overwhelmed doesn’t make you a bad parent—it makes you human.
Parents of children with ADHD face unique challenges during summer break that can intensify feelings of resentment and burnout. While other children may adapt more easily to unstructured time, children with ADHD often struggle with the loss of school routines, leading to increased hyperactivity, emotional dysregulation, and attention difficulties.
You’re managing not just typical summer disruptions, but also your child’s heightened need for structure, stimulation, and support. This perfect storm can leave you feeling trapped, overwhelmed, and guilty about your negative emotions. Understanding that these feelings are normal and addressing them proactively is crucial for both your mental health and your family’s harmony. Harold Meyer and the ADD Resource Center recognize that supporting parents is essential for supporting children with ADHD.
Summer break fundamentally disrupts the structured environment that helps children with ADHD thrive. Without the predictable rhythms of school, your child may experience increased impulsivity, emotional outbursts, and attention difficulties. Meanwhile, you’re suddenly responsible for providing constant structure, entertainment, and supervision.
This isn’t just about typical parenting stress. You’re managing executive function challenges, sensory needs, medication timing, and behavioral interventions—all while trying to maintain your own sanity. The result? Many parents feel trapped in a cycle of constant demand and depleted energy.
It’s important to recognize that feeling resentful doesn’t reflect poorly on your love for your child. These emotions signal that your needs aren’t being met, and addressing them is actually essential for effective ADHD parenting.
Protect your evening hours by establishing “discussion cutoff times.” Avoid talking about rules, consequences, or behavioral issues after 9 PM. This gives you crucial decompression time and prevents late-night conflicts that drain your energy.
Instead, use evening hours for lighter conversations about your child’s interests, sharing positive moments from the day, or simply allowing peaceful bedtime routines. This boundary helps you separate your parenting role from your personal time.
Implement a “parent bank” system where extras and favors are earned through completed responsibilities. If your ADHD child struggles with chores or basic expectations, don’t go above and beyond with special activities or privileges until they meet their obligations.
This approach isn’t punitive—it’s about teaching cause and effect while protecting your energy. You might say, “I’d love to drive you to the pool, but our family deal is that fun extras happen after morning responsibilities are done.”
While structure is important for ADHD children, you don’t need to customize every aspect of daily life to their preferences. Avoid constantly modifying meals, activities, or plans to prevent meltdowns. Sometimes disappointment is a valuable learning experience.
Accept that you can’t make everyone happy all the time, and that’s perfectly okay. Your child with ADHD needs to learn coping strategies for when things don’t go their way—and you need to preserve your energy for the battles that truly matter.
Pay attention to what specifically triggers your resentment. Is it the constant interruptions while you’re working? The negotiating over every request? The feeling that your child’s needs always come first?
Once you identify these patterns, you can create proactive strategies. If interruptions trigger you, establish “focus time” blocks where your child engages in independent activities. If negotiations exhaust you, create clear “non-negotiable” rules that aren’t up for discussion.
The ADD Resource Center (addrc.org) recognizes that parents need space to process their disappointments and losses. Allow yourself to mourn the summer you’d imagined, the easier parenting experience you’d hoped for, or the personal time you’ve sacrificed.
This grief process isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Journal about your feelings, talk with understanding friends, or consider counseling. Processing these emotions prevents them from building into deeper resentment.
After acknowledging your challenges, actively look for moments of gratitude. Notice when your child shows kindness, celebrates their unique ADHD strengths like creativity or enthusiasm, or acknowledge your own growth as a parent.
This isn’t about toxic positivity or dismissing real struggles. It’s about creating emotional balance by recognizing the good alongside the difficult.
Your child with ADHD may experience intense emotions due to their neurological differences. When they become angry about lost screen time and respond by hitting, you can say, “I understand you’re really upset about this. Feeling angry is okay, but hitting isn’t safe, so you’ll lose screens for the week.”
This approach acknowledges their ADHD-related emotional intensity while maintaining necessary behavioral boundaries. Your child learns that their feelings are valid, but their actions have consequences.
Recognize that your child with ADHD may require more time, additional reminders, or alternative approaches to meet expectations. However, don’t eliminate standards entirely. Instead, provide the support they need to succeed while maintaining clear expectations for respect, safety, and family cooperation.
Examine thoughts like “Summer should be relaxing” or “Good parents don’t feel resentful.” Replace these with more realistic beliefs: “Summer with ADHD children requires extra planning and patience” or “All parents need support and breaks to be their best selves.”
This cognitive shift helps you accept your current reality instead of fighting against it, reducing internal conflict and stress.
Remember that parenting a child with ADHD is genuinely challenging work that requires specialized skills, patience, and energy. You’re learning and growing just as much as your child is.
Expect difficult days, celebrate small victories, and remind yourself that seeking support and setting boundaries make you a better parent, not a selfish one.
Schedule consistent periods where you’re not actively supervising or entertaining your child. This might mean utilizing camps, playdates, screen time, or quiet activities that allow you to recharge.
While summer should be more relaxed than the school year, children with ADHD still benefit from predictable routines. Create flexible daily schedules that include both planned activities and free time.
Join support groups, online communities, or local ADHD organizations to connect with parents who understand your unique challenges. The ADD Resource Center (addrc.org) offers resources and community connections for families navigating these experiences.
Managing resentment during summer break isn’t about becoming a perfect parent—it’s about becoming a sustainable one. By setting boundaries, processing emotions, and maintaining realistic expectations, you can preserve your well-being while supporting your ADHD child’s needs.
Remember that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. When you’re emotionally and physically healthy, you’re better equipped to provide the consistent, patient support your child needs to thrive.
As Harold Meyer from the ADD Resource Center emphasizes, supporting parents is a crucial component of supporting children with ADHD. Your well-being matters not just for your sake, but for your entire family’s success.
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