Harold Robert Meyer and The ADD Resource Center

Dear Parents,

Instead of asking, “How was school today?” – a question that often gets a quick “fine” or “okay” – try asking your child, “Who did you help today?”

This simple change in questioning serves multiple purposes:

1. It encourages your child to reflect on their positive interactions with others rather than just recounting events
2. It reinforces the value of kindness and helping others
3. It helps children recognize their own impact on their school community
4. It often leads to more detailed stories and meaningful conversations since kids have to think about specific moments
5. It subtly reminds children that we notice and value their acts of kindness, not just their academic achievements

Even if your child didn’t help anyone that day, the question might prompt them to think about opportunities to help others tomorrow.

© 2024 The ADD Resource Center. All rights reserved. 12/26/2024

Bonus read:

Here are some of the best of Haim Ginott’s advice for parents:

June 30, 2024 by addrc

• Listen to your children. When your child is upset, take the time to listen to what they have to say. Don’t interrupt, and don’t try to solve their problem right away. Just let them know that you’re there for them and that you care about how they’re feeling.
• Be honest with your children. Don’t make promises you can’t keep, and don’t lie to your children. If you make a mistake, admit it. Honesty builds trust, and trust is essential for a strong parent-child relationship.
• Set limits. Children need limits in order to feel safe and secure. When you set limits, be clear about why you’re setting them and what the consequences will be if your child doesn’t follow them.
• Be respectful. Even when you’re disciplining your child, it’s important to be respectful. Don’t yell, name-call, or hit. Instead, use a calm, firm voice and explain why their behavior is unacceptable.

Ginott’s advice is timeless and still relevant today. If you’re looking for ways to improve your relationship with your child, I encourage you to read his books. They’re full of practical advice that can help you raise happy, healthy children.

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