Harold Robert Meyer and The ADD Resource Center 05/17/2025
Navigating conversations with someone who has ADHD requires understanding that interruptions often stem from neurological differences rather than intentional rudeness. This article provides a comprehensive framework for addressing interruptions in a respectful, constructive manner that preserves the relationship while establishing healthier communication patterns. You can create more satisfying interactions for both parties through thoughtful preparation, compassionate delivery, and collaborative problem-solving.
Communication breakdowns can damage relationships, reduce productivity, and create unnecessary tension. For individuals with ADHD, traditional communication expectations can feel impossible to meet, leading to shame and social withdrawal. By approaching the situation with empathy and knowledge, you can maintain meaningful connections while ensuring your own needs are met. Effective communication strategies benefit everyone involved and can strengthen rather than strain your relationship.
Before addressing interruptions, it’s important to recognize why they occur. According to Harold Meyer of the ADD Resource Center (ADDRC.org), individuals with ADHD often interrupt due to challenges with impulse control and working memory. Their brains process information differently, creating an urgency to express thoughts before they’re forgotten. What might feel like rudeness to you is actually their brain’s attempt to manage information overflow.
This understanding doesn’t mean you must accept communication patterns that don’t work for you, but it provides context that helps depersonalize the behavior.
Choose a moment when you’re both calm and not rushed. Avoid bringing up the topic:
A weekend morning or relaxed evening often works best, when medication is effective and external pressures are minimal.
Before speaking, remind yourself:
Begin by creating a safe atmosphere: “I’d like to talk with you about something that’s been on my mind. Is this a good time?”
Share your perspective without accusation: “I’ve noticed during our conversations that sometimes I don’t get to finish expressing my thoughts before the topic changes. When this happens, I feel like my input isn’t being fully heard.”
Show understanding of their experience: “I know you have many thoughts that come quickly, and I really value your enthusiasm and insights. I also understand that waiting to speak can be especially challenging with ADHD.”
Instead of saying “You always interrupt me,” try: “Yesterday during our dinner conversation, I was explaining about my work project, and I noticed I didn’t get to finish my thought about the timeline.”
Offer ideas while inviting their input: “I wonder if we could try something that might help us both. Maybe you could jot down your thoughts when they come to you, so you won’t forget them. Or we could have a signal, like me raising my finger, to indicate I’m still completing my thought. What do you think would work for both of us?”
Reinforce the value of your relationship: “I really appreciate having this conversation with you. Our relationship is important to me, and I want our communication to work well for both of us.”
Establish non-verbal signals that indicate:
Suggest they keep a small notepad or digital note app handy during conversations to capture thoughts without interrupting.
For important discussions, consider using a physical object that passes between speakers, signaling whose turn it is to talk.
Build in natural breaks where you explicitly invite their thoughts: “That’s my take on the situation. What thoughts came up for you while I was speaking?”
Apps like “Time Timer” provide visual reminders of speaking time, creating more balanced conversations.
After implementing new strategies, schedule brief check-ins: “How do you feel our new system is working? Is there anything we should adjust?”
Recognize progress with specific examples: “I noticed during our discussion with friends yesterday that we had a really balanced conversation. I appreciated that.”
Understand that change takes time: “I know we’re both working on this. Some days will be better than others.”
If communication challenges persist despite your best efforts, consider:
Addressing interruptions with someone who has ADHD requires patience, understanding, and collaboration. By approaching the conversation with empathy rather than frustration, focusing on solutions rather than problems, and maintaining respect throughout, you create the foundation for more satisfying interactions. Remember that small improvements should be celebrated, and perfect communication isn’t the goal—better understanding is.
ADD Resource Center: https://www.addrc.org/adhd-and-communication-problems/
CHADD (Children and Adults with ADHD): https://chadd.org/for-adults/relationships/
ADDitude Magazine – Communication Strategies: https://www.additudemag.com/category/manage-adhd-life/relationships/
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