How do you advocate for yourself without appearing pompous

  1. Be factual: Instead of saying “I’m an amazing problem-solver,” you might say, “In my last role, I implemented a new inventory system that reduced errors by 30%.” This approach lets your achievements speak for themselves.
  2. Use “I” statements: Rather than “Anyone would agree this is the best approach,” try “Based on my experience, I believe this approach could be effective because…” This shows you’re offering your perspective without imposing it as absolute truth.
  3. Show, don’t tell: If you want to highlight your leadership skills, instead of stating “I’m a great leader,” you could say, “I led a team of five in developing our latest product, which exceeded sales projections by 25%.” This provides concrete evidence of your leadership abilities.
  4. Acknowledge others: When discussing a successful project, you might say, “With the support of my talented team and the guidance of my mentor, I was able to lead the project to completion ahead of schedule.” This shows you value collaboration and can share credit.
  5. Be humble: After describing an achievement, you could add, “I’m grateful for that opportunity and am always looking to learn more in this area.” This demonstrates that you don’t see yourself as perfect or finished growing.
  6. Listen actively: In a meeting, after sharing your ideas, you might say, “I’d love to hear your thoughts on this approach. What has been your experience with similar situations?” This shows you value others’ input and aren’t just focused on promoting yourself.
  7. Time it right: When asked about your strengths during a job interview, it’s appropriate to advocate for yourself. In casual conversation with colleagues, it might be better to focus on current projects or ask about their work.
  8. Focus on value: Instead of “I’m an expert in data analysis,” try “My experience in data analysis could help streamline our reporting process, potentially saving the team several hours each week.”
  9. Be prepared: Before an important meeting or interview, prepare a few key accomplishments or skills you want to highlight. This allows you to advocate for yourself confidently and concisely when the opportunity arises.
  10. Use confident but moderate language: Rather than “I always meet deadlines,” you might say “I have a strong track record of meeting deadlines, even in high-pressure situations.” This conveys confidence without seeming boastful or unrealistic.

Hal Meyer and The ADD Resource Center offer specialized behavioral intervention and educational services for ADHD. They empower adolescents, adults, couples, and their loved ones to manage ADHD symptoms and reach their full potential. They have the expertise to provide personalized guidance and unwavering support on the journey to success.

Harold Robert Meyer /The ADD Resource Center –  http://www.addrc.org/ – 646/205.8080  07/06/2023

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