Young Adults With ADHD Living At Home: How To Communicate With Them

Understanding ADHD in young adults

Living with a young adult who has ADHD can present unique challenges when it comes to communication. ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects a person’s ability to pay attention, control impulsive behaviors, and regulate their emotions. It is important to understand that individuals with ADHD may have difficulty with organization, time management, focusing on tasks or taking direction. There will be many who will be defensive and even resentful of your efforts. Recognizing these characteristics can help foster better communication with your young adult at home.

To effectively communicate with a young adult with ADHD, it is crucial to have a basic understanding of the disorder itself. ADHD is not a result of laziness, defiance, or a lack of intelligence but rather a neurological difference in the brain. It is a lifelong condition that affects individuals across various aspects of their lives. By educating yourself about ADHD, you can gain insight into the challenges your young adult may face and approach communication with empathy and understanding.

Challenges of communicating with a young adult with ADHD

Communication can be particularly challenging when interacting with a young adult who has ADHD. The symptoms of ADHD, such as impulsivity, distractibility, and difficulty with organization, can impact their ability to engage in effective communication. It is important to be aware of these challenges and adapt your communication strategies accordingly. Do not try to communicate when one or both parties are not “in the right” place. For some with ADHD, any suggestion, no matter how benign, may be taken as a criticism. Ask, rather than tell.

One of the primary challenges is maintaining focus during conversations. Young adults with ADHD may struggle to pay attention for an extended period, leading to missed information or misunderstandings. Additionally, impulsivity can cause them to interrupt or speak out of turn, which can disrupt the flow of the conversation. It is crucial to be patient and understanding when faced with these challenges, as frustration or impatience may further hinder effective communication.

Importance of effective communication

When communication is clear, open, and respectful, it can enhance understanding, minimize misunderstandings, and strengthen the bond between family members. By employing effective communication strategies, you can create an environment that promotes positive interactions and facilitates the growth and development of your young adult. Do not give up if you implement these suggestions and they do not work at first. It might take many attempts.

It is important to remember that effective communication is a two-way street. It involves not only expressing oneself clearly but also actively listening and understanding the perspective of the other person. By valuing open and honest communication, you can foster trust and create an atmosphere where your young adult feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings. Effective communication is the foundation upon which all other strategies for interacting with a young adult with ADHD are built.

Tips for effective communication with a young adult with ADHD

  1. Setting clear expectations and boundaries: Establishing clear expectations and boundaries helps provide structure and predictability for your young adult. Clearly communicate your expectations regarding responsibilities, behavior, and household rules. Use clear and *concise* language, and provide visual cues if necessary. Regularly review and reinforce these expectations to ensure they are understood.
  2. Active listening techniques: Practice active listening to demonstrate your genuine interest in what your young adult has to say. Maintain eye contact, nod or use affirming gestures to show attentiveness, and ask clarifying questions to ensure comprehension. Avoid interrupting or finishing their sentences. By actively listening, you convey respect and validate their thoughts and feelings. Listen with the intent to understand, not with the intent to reply.
  3. Using visual aids and reminders: Visual aids can be helpful in aiding communication with a young adult with ADHD. Utilize calendars, to-do lists, and visual schedules to provide structure and reminders for tasks and appointments. Color-coding or using icons can make the information more visually appealing and easier to process. These visual aids serve as tangible reminders and help your young adult stay organized.
  4. Implementing structured routines and schedules: Establishing structured routines and schedules can provide a sense of stability and predictability for your young adult. Create a daily or weekly schedule that outlines activities, chores, and responsibilities. Clearly communicate the schedule, and involve your young adult in the planning process to encourage their active participation. Stick to the schedule as much as possible to minimize surprises or unexpected changes.
  5. Encouraging open and honest conversations: Create a safe and non-judgmental environment that encourages open and honest conversations. Be approachable and supportive, allowing your young adult to express their thoughts, concerns, and emotions without fear of judgment or criticism. Do not be defensive. Respond with empathy and validate their experiences to foster trust and strengthen your relationship.
  6. Seeking professional help and support: If communication challenges persist despite your best efforts, consider seeking professional help and support. An ADHD Coach, therapist or counselor experienced in working with individuals with ADHD can provide valuable guidance and strategies tailored to your specific situation. They can help you navigate the unique challenges associated with ADHD and improve communication within your family.


Communication with a young adult with (or without) ADHD can be challenging, but by understanding the disorder, recognizing the challenges, and implementing effective strategies, you can strengthen your relationship. Setting clear expectations, practicing active listening, using visual aids, implementing structured routines, encouraging open conversations, and seeking professional support are just a few of the many ways you can improve communication with your young adult. Remember, effective communication requires patience, empathy, and understanding. By investing in effective communication, you can create an environment that supports their growth, development, and overall well-being.

CTA: If you’re looking for more strategies and support in communicating with a young adult with ADHD, reach out to an ADHD Coach, a professional therapist or counselor experienced in working with individuals with ADHD. They can provide personalized guidance and help you navigate the unique challenges you may be facing.

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