When you’re afraid to enforce your own rules
Your fear is information about you, not a prediction about your child. Reasonable, consistently held limits do not cause children to rebel, flee, or harm themselves — the evidence points the other way: structure and connection are among the strongest protections a child has. The work here is mostly internal. Learn to feel the fear without obeying it, get your own support, and never let a threat of self-harm become a reason to abandon either the limit or the help your child may need.
